Walking on Eggshells Around Your Child With ADHD, Autism, or SPD?May 02, 2022
Sensory processing challenges such as ADHD, autism, and sensory processing disorder affect the brain, nervous system, and body in a variety of ways. Every child is unique and worthy of being cherished for who they are. Sometimes parents have difficulty seeing their child's beautifully unique personality and gifts because their interactions start to be overcome by negative interactions.
A common thread that we all relate to as parents of children with sensory processing challenges are frequent meltdowns and tantrums. Out of nowhere, you find your child in distress. Your child may be in a heighted and agitated state or maybe your child is more likely to shut down and close everyone out...including you. What is a parent to do? We typically start with the old standbys like threatening, yelling, begging, or banishing. All of these tactics only heighten meltdowns and tantrums rather than helping your child become regulated again.
Constant negative behaviors can make any parent start to walk on eggshells. Do you feel like you are on edge waiting for the next big behavior response from your child over what appears to be nothing? Are you concerned that your child is self-isolating and using screen time to escape?
Parent coaching can help you move from feeling like you are walking on eggshells to becoming a calm and confident parent. In parent coaching, I help parents to see parenting through the sensory lens from a relational perspective. Parents tend to focus on stopping negative behavior rather than building up positive interactions. Brain science tells us that when we give big attention to a behavior...we get more of it. The bad news is that giving more energy to stop negative behaviors like punishing and yelling will only make matters worse over time. Ready for the GOOD NEWS? Giving big positive energy to reinforce positive behaviors will create more positive behavior.
Here is a tip you can use today! Look for as many positive things you notice your child doing as possible and point them out. You may have to look hard at first, but you'll find them. You can give verbal praise or write little notes for your child to find give your appreciation.
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