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Learning Self-Compassion

Feb 16, 2022
Learning Self-Compassion

I’m a perfectionist by nature. Unfortunately, I have unintentionally taught my children how to be perfectionists. I’ve lectured myself ruthlessly about this painful reality, but it never changed anything.  Angry lectures in my head simply drive me to desperately avoid perfectionism…more perfectly. In the last year, I have slowly begun to heal from perfectionism in my life.  My word for the year is “grace” which is grounded in forgiving myself and accepting my limitations. I have decided I would rather be healthy than perfect.  Perfectionism rots the soul, and self-compassion is the antidote for healing.  Self-compassion is a powerful healing tool.  When I start to tighten up in my stomach and shoulders, I am learning to use the gentle voice in my head.  I pray and let go.  It’s a practice I need to implement daily.  I’m finding that my newfound self-compassion is pouring over onto my children.  My new perspective on health over perfection is starting to calm the harsh voice in each of them. I’m starting to talk to myself with gentleness and kindness as my kind friends do when I need support.  Self-compassion is healing for me, but the real magic is the healing for those around me.  All parents fall short of how we want to be.  Are you ready to give yourself some compassion? 

If you’d like to learn more, I highly recommend the book, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristen Neff, Ph.D.

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